Lately, you’ve felt overwhelmed by your emotions. Maybe you’re crying, having panic attacks, sleeping poorly, or struggling to get things done. When you try to make sense of things, your thoughts are impossible to organize. When others ask how you’re doing, you say, “fine,” but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
You’re anxious, frazzled, irritated, and you can’t seem to find rest. You don’t usually ask for help because you’re either afraid to burden others or don’t have a reliable support system. It’s okay for others to make mistakes, but you shudder at the thought of showing up as anything less than perfect. Your need to control is exhausting you and pushing others away.
Your anxious thoughts seem to have a mind of their own, especially at night. Staying busy sometimes keeps the negative thoughts and difficult emotions away but it’s getting harder to keep everything contained. Despite trying to distract yourself, stay busy, or stop the thoughts, your mind fills with all of the worst-case scenarios. This prevents you from feeling connected to others and enjoying the moment.
You are The Giver, The Fixer, The Responsible One, The Caregiver. You’ve spent your entire life taking care of others, and sometimes you’ve parented your own parents. You dream about living with healthy boundaries, like honoring your limits or saying “no” when you don’t want to do something. But these dreams don’t come true because the thought of disappointing others is too scary. People pleasing is like breathing- you do it even when you don’t realize you’re doing it. You resent this but don’t know how to break the cycle.
You’ve already been thinking about making a change. Your insomnia, hypervigilance, panic attacks, and fatigue are letting you know that it’s time to make a change and fight for you.
I am a licensed professional counselor (LPC) in the state of Texas and provide individual in-person and virtual therapy for adults 18 and older. I help clients learn how to manage their anxiety, reclaim their lives after trauma, and enjoy healthier platonic and romantic relationships. I also specialize in helping people recover from high control groups and postpartum depression and anxiety.
You don’t have to figure it out alone. I offer a free, 15-minute virtual consultation for those interested in seeing if I’d be a great fit. I’d love to hear from you.
